So I’m standing here because I’m 50 years old and I want to feel more connected to Torah. Many of you think that this is an old familiar place for me, but its brand new. This parashah is very rich – with many of our values and basic stories of our tradition. I have selected one theme and picked up its strands through out the parashah.
I chose to speak on Ki Tetze because I thought it would probably force me to think about some of the central issues that trouble me as a feminist, and a scholar of feminist theory, who is also trying to be an observant Jew. It did. Rachel Adler, in her fine book, Engendering Judaism, encapsulates the dilemma of trying to find a space as a Jewish woman that neither accepts oppression and patriarchy, nor rejects what is central to Judaism. She writes:
The Holidays are the same each year. But each year we are different. Each year we experience the Holidays differently. For me, each year, they become more difficult. This idea of ruthless self-evaluation, of Cheshbon Nefesh, of making an account of my self and my behavior is hard.
Ruth and Naomi are supposed to have this great relationship. In fact, it's the best relationship between women in the Torah. But that's not saying much. Think about Sarah and Hagar or Rachel and Leah. Some of the things Ruth does for Naomi are too sugar-coatedly perfect to feel healthy. Why should Ruth give Naomi her own child? This relationship isn't all that it seems.
Over these Yamim Noraim, those of us who attend all services will be here for over 20 hours of prayer. That's a lot of time. Today, I want to explore with you what do we expect to get out of this investment? How can we best utilize that time?
This drash is dedicated to David's and my chavurah, Judaism Revealed.
I am giving this drash in honor of Iris Greenbaum, who, together with a small group of Netivot Shalom parents, started Shabbat B'Yachad five years ago, and whose wisdom and spirit continue to inspire the Shabbat B'Yachad program.